Lately I've been hearing people say that marriage is nothing more than a business deal between two people that happen to live together and have sex every once in awhile. Hell, we might as well just have arranged marriages! Love, what is that? What does love have to do with it? The sad part about this situation is that people are still wondering why the divorce rate is so damn high...duh! Now, I'm not saying that this is the main reason. Financial problems, which can put a heavy strain on the marriage, is one of the leading causes of divorce. Some people just grow apart, simple as that. There are lots of reasons why people get divorced, but I honestly believe that when you are really in love with a person you are not so quick to just throw away everything at the drop of a hat. You will do all you can possibly do to make it work. More and more couples are going into a marriage with the idea of "well, if it doesn't work out there's always divorce!" If you are thinking this at the same time that you are planning to get married you might want to re-evaluate some things. Why go into something as sacred as marriage with negative thoughts? I just don't get it. What happened to marrying that person that you just can't imagine yourself living without? Does this still happen? Are people just settling for someone because they can't be with the person that they really want? Getting married just to say you're married but your miserable as hell...what's the point?
Often times people marry those individuals that they feel "look good on paper". That person that has the multiple degrees, a great job making great money, living that ideal "corporate life". All that is wonderful but what else do they have to offer? Fun, free-spirited, loving and able to get along with anyone? Or the total opposite? Boring, uptight, and socially retarded? Right. I couldn't imagine marrying a person based on what they have and what they can do for me. I'm not going to say that I don't want to live a comfortable life...who wants to struggle? However, the most important thing to me is my happiness and one thing I can know for sure is material items cannot subsitute for my happiness. Forgive me for still believing in love! Call me crazy but I believe in love and the fact that is still exists. We just have to get back to that place where men and women allow themselves to fall in love. We are so guarded these days and afraid to let people get close. Let it go! I'm definitely not saying you should let your guard down for everyone, but as intelligent human beings I'm sure you can use your good judgment and figure out who deserves a chance and who doesn't. Don't be afraid to take a chance at love. True, you are risking getting hurt. That's a part of life. You live and you learn...pray, forgive and move on.
I just want more people to get married (if that's what they choose to do) because they are deeply in love not because they didn't have shit else to do and it just seemed like the right thing to do. Stop getting married to people just because you have a child together...epic fail. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic...so what! Now go kiss your husband or wife and go to bed!
Until Next Time...
